Say no to things you don’t have or want to do by using the word “don’t”. E.g. “I don’t go for after works drinks because I like to get home as soon as I can my kids.”
If more than one person says the same thing about you, then it’s true. Good and bad. Listen to them and accept or fix.
Understand that no one is looking at you, so wear the goddammed bikini.
Have good quality sheets and change them once a week. There are few things as comforting climbing into a bed made with freshly laundered sheets.
Accept that there is no such thing as perfect.
Have a flower in a vase somewhere in your house. A jam jar of gardenias or lavender or roses swiped from the park down the road, connect you to nature.
Let go of being the starter engine in all relationships. If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. A phone call, a text can mean a lot. It also speaks volumes when they don’t make space. Let it go. It’s done. These things happen. People change. It’s okay. Send them love and let them go.
Don’t clean up your house for anyone but yourself.
Do the most shitty thing on your to-do- list, first. It’s a way of un-constipating your day, so to speak.
Don’t be held back by what happened to you. You are the decision maker in that area. Not coping, then get some help. It’s not so hard and makes all the difference.
Know what your boundaries are. You can’t solve everything for everyone. Your job is to love the people in your life, and point them to an area of the world that might have some meaning for them, if you know of such a place. Otherwise, just love them.
Dance in the car. Dance in the kitchen. Dance on the living room rug. As Nietzsche said, “We should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.”
Learn how to apologise and do it when you know you’re wrong.
Accept you’re not good at everything, and everything doesn’t need to be tried.
Don’t assume you know anything about anyone. If we heard everyone’s story, then I think we would be kinder to the people pushing and yelling and crying.
Be aware of the energy you bring into a room. Don’t be a Judy Moody. It’s so boring and you won’t be invited places.
Quit complaining. Nobody cares. Fix it or forget about it.
Read. Read whenever you can. Read books, and news, and blogs, and poems, and jokes and stories. This opens the mind and the heart.
Accept that there is no such thing as fair.
Don’t spend time with anyone who doesn’t make you feel amazing about yourself or hopeful about your future.
